A Bicycle Ride

With everything going on in the world right now, and how emotionally drained I sometimes find myself, I can certainly use some stress relief. A year ago, I made the lifestyle change to consistently include purposeful workouts. Today, the thought of my treadmill literally depletes my motivational battery. Recently picked up biking to relieve my knees from my frequent runs. So I decided to just Nike-up for a quick four-mile bike ride.

On the road, the wind blowing on me automatically relaxes my body. I am attentive to what I am doing now. Stretch one is about a mile uphill. Going steady, maintaining the rhythm on gear 6. Halfway up, my legs are burning, and I self-criticize as thoughts of giving up consume me. Why am I being so hard on myself? Growth is not an easy journey, why feel defeated? No work, no gain. It doesn’t matter if it’s running or biking, let it go, Nettie. That’s all it took. Almost felt surreal, as my motivational battery instantly recharged, determination set in, I’m more positive, engaged and purposeful with my strides. All this, just from one positive affirmation. 

I’m turning the corner for the next stretch, I’m pumped, and the universe works to assist me. Listening to Ella Mai’s ‘Easy’, while going downhill, how perfect the synchrony. She sings ‘love is easy, easy, easy, so don’t you make it hard’ but I’m fully owning the moment, all I hear is LIFE “is easy, easy, easy, so don’t you make it hard“. I scream along without a care, in unison to express the message in my heart for all those hurting today from all the injustices in this world. The same wind that created resistance going uphill, relaxes me almost as if to thank me for experiencing multiple reasons for its creation. How sweet the duality of life. My motivational battery is fully charged. I feel connected to everything around me, and start to appreciate just how every home, church, tree, garden, fence, and school I pass helps to build a beautiful neighborhood, and along with it, afford this pavement I’m graced to be riding on. I ride past a lifeless bird on the grass, and the first thing that comes to my mind is the loss of a spirit. Not a bird, but a soul. 

Stretch three. I’m going uphill again, the load is a lot lighter than in the beginning. Is it because my muscles are now conditioned, or that my current aura affords me full control? I always pick up speed here, almost to remind myself that life will suck , but only to help us work for the greater times ahead on the horizon. Adrenaline-high, HR pumping but going uphill is much easier this time, simply because my affirmation kept me going. 

Stretch four. I assess the journey realizing just how much life I lived during this ride. I experienced a vast array of emotions, and in many ways than I can express. My ride started with a mix of emotional trauma, stress, moodiness, pre-workout school teacher exhaustion, and then journeyed through doubt, pain, perseverance, resilience, kindness, empathy, affirmation, motivation, peace, joy, awareness, connection, gratitude, assurance, relaxation, and finally, clarity. If it took just one positive affirmation to start a chain reaction that led to such energy balance, imagine what many would do.

We are human and emotion is our unspoken language. Without it, we are not whole. Every emotion is purposeful, the goal is to use them to grow, even the unpleasant ones. Let the lessons from your circumstances be the very reason you do. It can be the difference between a mediocre day, and an impactful one. Find something that will serve to rebalance you, and when you do, remember that a positive attitude is a choice, and most importantly it is free, you do not need permission from any person to be positive. And just like everything else, If you cultivate it, it becomes your fall-back when things are difficult. Cultivate the skill of choosing to stay positive in your daily routines, make it your fall back.

We are not our disabilities.

I’ve often wondered why we have created space for our disabilities, where we increasingly move from being seen as people with challenges, into people who ARE challenges. Or why we feel shame in recognizing such challenges, simply as what they are, challenges. 

As a society, I understand the need to identify and provide assistance to individuals born, or with acquired inadequacies affecting their daily lives. Why is it commonly translated as a need for isolation in a space of deficiency, whether purposefully or unintentionally? We all deserve to understand both sides, how that affects our livelihood, and make us unique. Holding back one or the other is a disservice to us all, and influences a future distortion on full self-awareness. 

Imagine being consistently identified from childhood, as HAVING a disability. It can affect the mind very differently knowing that you are NOT a disability, but rather live with some inabilities affected by challenges. Epigenetic studies support how this can significantly affect the mindset. The idea of being defective can suppress many abilities that with routine, hard work, and a cultivating mindset, can significantly elevate our lives in many ways. 

Now imagine being trained to only believe in perfectionism with nothing beyond your capabilities. Undoubtedly, you will probably thrive with this mindset, crushing your goals and accomplishing many outcomes you set your mind to. Until you find out later in life, things you truly may never be able to accomplish in the manner you dream, because of some independent variable out of your control. It might take just as much time adjusting mentally and emotionally building you back to where you were. 

We all have disabilities in some way because we are human, which influences us to develop values more connected to self-acceptance, increase comfort in accepting accountability for our choices, and understand what we can contribute to thriving in any environment, circumstance, and period of life.  

We need to elevate our consciousness, to accept ourselves for all that we are, as self-worth is critical to self-awareness. Consciously work to trust that at any given time in your life, conversation, interaction, roadblock, or self-doubt,  you are human. We are everything that we are, and that is always enough of a starting point to accurately work on elevating ourselves to where we want to go.      

Mind and Choice

What supports the explanation and functionality of the human mind. Some say God and others say science. It is fair to believe both sources coexist and are equally relevant and tasked with explaining all the things we have come to know, the things we think we know, the things we only have a glimpse of knowing, to the things we just can’t explain even if we knew. 

Science explains the brain’s anatomy and physiology while spirituality supports/validates it’s aliveness. I imagine the brain as a command center that collects all data; good and bad, affording the human carrying the body a variety of paths to choose from. The brain may provide all rational options, but it is the human form guided by its conscious state, that gets to choose.

Although we may never come to fully decode it, we still have the power to train and navigate our thoughts independently, as facilitated and afforded by our individual journeys. We are habitual in our ways as our minds have been trained to frequently present options suitable to our realities and desires.That by itself supports our ability to retrain our brains just like we do other body parts and functions. 

Have you ever wondered why memories slowly fade away when they stop contributing to, or influencing our lives? Explains why the proportion of memories that stay alive is related to the extent of their influence on who we are. As much as science enlightens us, I hope that the things it cannot explain, allow us to sustain our individuality of thought as was meant from our creation days, unique to each person, mysterious, and truly free. 

It is crucial to remember that whatever choice is made, will always evoke reactions presented by our universe. So cultivate the habit of making choices guided by good intentions, those that are service driven, and growth driven. Such actions increase our chances of living in a peaceful state with others, but most importantly, with ourselves. 

And when our choices cause pain and hurt and conflict, always remember that our mind constantly affords a multitude of favorable options available to choose from. Our thoughts are OURS to navigate, retrain, change and grow. 

Dream

I’ve often reflected on why we typically connect better with our dreams and imagination when we close our eyes. My rational explanation understands conscious connection as experienced from a collection of three events. The moment you see it, how your brain interprets it, and how your heart feels it. 

So your eyes, your mind and your heart all factor into how you emotionally connect. Given that we live more consciously, the eyes allow us to visually embrace what we are connecting with. However, oftentimes, especially with events that don’t necessarily need visible cues, the eyes can create repeals of distraction. Such events tend to feel better, experienced in the dark and typically enhance both conscious and subconscious emotional connections. 

With eyes closed, there is no visible interference and our mind’s influence on how we intake heightens, allowing us to experience multiple sensations of what we are connecting with, in ways that are most suitable to us. It affords us a medium to dive deeper into realms untouched by visual distractions, hence influencing our hearts the opportunity for greater vulnerability. 

It explains why experiences like meditation, yoga, visualization, dreaming, sex, or listening to music are more enjoyable in such a state. Or why sometimes going blindly is better as the unknown allows for the mind and heart the opportunity to experience multiple possibilities. 

No visual distractions allows us to attach our focus or state to the purpose for the experience. It allows us to connect our thoughts and feelings without the intrusion of visible variables. In that state, we are truly one mind, body and spirit, and have the opportunity to connect with our human form in our highest mental energy state. So do me a favor, close your eyes, let your imagination travel, DREAM! 

Perfectionism

We are not perfect, that fortunately is one of the beautiful things about humanity. For many reasons, the cause and effect, action and reaction realities exist as early as in utero, as both genetics and environment influence our creation. Our environment however is mainly what keeps us trending towards a need for global Perfectionism. 

Perfectionism I believe is unattainable, as it is impossible to create a linear continuum of a particular standard for a single person, much more a collective people. Perfection stunts the purity of personal and purposeful growth. Life will forever be an absolute independent experience for every single human being, and our experiences, intentions and environmental influences, are microscopically unique, and individually experienced.

Evolution is messy and cosmic and shocking and experimental. That’s what allows for the possibility of growth and transformation. It has been, and it will continue to be that way even with all human attempts to standardize and normalize predictability. Don’t get me wrong, data is necessary especially in a world rapidly changing and bursting with higher levels of consciousness.

Part of our change in this era of individuality and capitalism definitely requires predictability to allow a certain state of preservation. But even in that state, we still need to remember that we are individuals, and evolve independently before collectively. Rather than mostly focusing on grouping our nature and changes in relation to universal data, it is more beneficial to include the independent variable of individual experiences guided by, and connected to the one and basic factor that has kept us evolving all this while, our Humanity. 

We need to remember that humanity is what allows us to be unique, to grow, to change. It is our privilege to decipher why we feel, how it affects us, and how we can use the lessons to grow without compromising the very reason we exist. Perfectionism stalls us from living our truth, for fear of perceived failure. So we keep living in a data driven state, rather than an organic human guided one. 

Leadership

True leadership is an enormous responsibility for the people who look up to you, rather than how they look up to you. Even with an error margin, it has a focus on purpose for service, and the results, directions, and decisions made with, for and on behalf of the people you serve. Are your intentions based on the purpose of caring, inspiring, motivating, and leading others to thrive? How these intentions and actions affect the leader need not be part of the worry because, the act of positive-good-intentioned service, does not only define the kind of leader you are but determines your returns.

As leaders, the goal and purpose should at all times, beyond all benefit of doubt, focus less on the individual, and more on the collective good of the people, by the people, and for the people.

The way I see it, great leadership is evaluated on results that can be felt first, before being seen. It is influenced by spiritual guidance even without knowing, and comes from a place that sits well with understanding the people you serve, relating to their circumstances and putting their basic human needs before any other agenda. Health, safety, equality, justice, a chance for growth and opportunity, and ensuring we maintain an environment conducive for future generations. 

Expectedly, leaders are human and do have moments where their flaws outshine their progress. However, that same humanity affords empathy, compassion, love, integrity, grace, vulnerability, kindness and strength, all characteristics of a good leader. As individuals, they also experience the constant struggle with balance, sometimes influencing self-centered decision making rather than decisions focused on getting the most yields for the population as a whole, and building a utilitarian system worth standing ground. 

A sovereign system of leadership might produce results, mostly influenced by fear, survival, and a vision extremely hard for people to trust and connect with. It creates a system that seems strong from the outside, but standing on an unstable foundation ready to crumble. Such leadership is not one of service, but one of self interest.True leadership in a democracy requires respecting and building the strengths of all participants, and inspiring them to be their best. It encourages accountability, pride in their participation, and promotes unity.

Every pyramid system built to last is influenced by both the top and the bottom foundation, and both are equally important in ensuring it’s sustainability. How the Leaders at the top connect with the employees at the bottom determines the fragility or strength of the organization. We need leadership that exists in this format so we can all thrive and leave a legacy for future generations to model and ensure sustaining our existence, and humanity. 

Choose Life

“There are sources of help all around you which operate on the rule of free will. Those of positive polarity shall not force themselves upon you but shall await your request. It is said in your holy works, “Ask and you shall receive; Knock and it shall be opened unto you.” know with a deep knowing, that this is the true nature of things. Do not expect your guidance to come and speak in your ear without your request. You have Angels about you at all times. They too are forbidden to interfere until you ask for their help. Ask them and thank them.” – IG @messagefrombeyond.

At every given moment in your Life, you are all that you are. Your body is alive and reacting with its environment. Remember that even during your darkest moments, YOU are the master of your body. You are your body’s guide to aliveness. 

Life can be overwhelming as there are millions of reactions and interactions constantly happening with and all around us. Beautiful thing about this cosmic size reality is that it will always be dual. 

REMEMBER there is always access to the equal but opposite reaction to everything happening to us, in us, and around us. We share our aliveness with our worlds so when it comes to our mental health, share and use those same resources. There is no better time than during such moments. 

Here are 5 ways to reconnect with your Aliveness. 

✅ TALK! Similar to crying, Talk therapy is one of the first and easiest ways to start releasing negative energy from your body. It gives your body a chance to start rebalancing it’s chemicals. It gives you the chance to seek Empathy and Love.

✅ PRAY! Prayer allows you to spiritually connect you to your inner creator. The very essence of the gift we possess, Life itself. 

✅ CONNECT! Use physical or spiritual, and external and internal mediums. Get a massage, meditate, listen to music, watch your favorite movie, go out into nature. Dose your mind and body with soothing and positive inputs to remind you of the joys of living. 

✅ LAUGH! Besides the fact that laughter is 100% free, it has been proven to be contagious, and an opportunity to bond with yourself and others. 

✅ CHOOSE LIFE! The very notion of keeping your mind in this state is directly related to being in this state. Even during moments where it seems impossible, stay patient and optimistic, it is positive reinforcement and allows you to live in a State of Hope. 

Keep Healing, Loving, and Growing!

Emotion + Energy

Where the mind goes, Energy flows and blood and flesh follow”

Every emotion plays an important physiological role in our body. Epigenetics helps explain how energy from the environment affects our body and our growth in positive or negative ways. 

Studies have shown that the mind and the immune system are connected. Positive energy relaxes the body by increasing blood flow to the brain and the organs, increases the release of oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins, which all promote growth, healing and wellness. 

Stress increases tension of connective tissue, moves blood from our organs to our muscles, and increases the release of histamines, all of which decrease our immunity, growth, and balance. Stress can literally manifest as illness, especially chronic stress from trapped difficult emotions. 

Emotional expression and methods used to decrease stress such as talk therapy, or touch therapy which can initiate transferring positive energy to restructure and promote growth and healing through touch, nutritional therapy by eating foods that positively influence the structure of our anatomy and physiology. Adopting practices that increase oxygen intake such as deep breathing , Qigong, and Yoga. 

Using Visualization such as meditation or mental imagery we can discover a manifestation for ourselves from within ourselves, the power of positive thinking and practice guided by life coaching, using the creative conscious mind to learn new information, or download information from the programmed subconscious mind, to address our stress and move our bodies from the stress response, to the relaxed, restored, and heal response. 

We become what we think. and the energy we absorb manifest in the physicality of our bodies. 

TIME

Time, the one constant still intangible. From quantum theory, spiritual & mystical concepts, and time travel. The possibility that time is the very reason we exist is one theory to live by. Can we live with the reality of knowing when our time starts and stops? Can we handle the newness and realities of circumstances if we could travel to different eras? 

As our time ticks and tocks, choosing to live with all its uncertainties may be hard. Truth is, as living creatures, decoding time is realistically impossible. For one reason, every single organism has its own personal clock. Even if we somehow found a way to make it collectively linear, our individuality of thought, our uniqueness, prevents it. Our functioning may be synonymous in many ways but yet so different at the same time. One event remains the same event, but evokes an infinity of reactions from all those experiencing it.

Choosing to continue challenging our intelligence, whether by fact or speculation, is a journey that is purposeful. Focusing on how time affords us our individual journeys is a crucial part of that study. The notion of time having a beginning and an end, can be scary and conforming, even though we know we are energy that cycles through the universe, only present in physical form for some time in this state of consciousness. Time, I believe, doesn’t exist to conform us, it exists to free us. 

There’s no disregarding quantum mysticism. There may be a galactic genesis of time, but there is also the reality of direct observation that time connects and navigates our journeys as we grow. Affording us space to evolve into who we are as individuals and collectively as people. 

We already travel to the past with our memories, live in the future through our dreams and imagination, and manage our present with reality. Isn’t that time travel? Isn’t that a space for any individual to make the best of their situation? Plants bend and twist, and our bodies build antibodies in hopes of furthering our existence. However we came into being, we are afforded these gifts to live our time, to make our time, to travel through our time as best as we can, with as much time as we have. 

 

24 hours around your world

We often hear motivational content say ‘the world is in your hands’. While meditating, I journeyed deeper into its meaning. In a space of gratitude, I remembered how much the world is in my hands. Every individual I connect with has experienced the world differently, So indirectly, I have shared their experiences through connection. I might not have been physically present, but our interaction and connection allow us to remember them as shared memories. 

There is also the abundance of technology, books, music, manuals, art, nature, media, movies, people who inspire and motivate us, home, family, cousins, aunties, uncles, friends, neighbors, colleagues, teachers, clients, pets, the tree in my front yard, my car… and I realise just how much I am inspired by, and connected to the world around me. 

I have experienced a vast array of people, places, food, personalities, tragedies, celebrations, cultures through all my relationships, and I am thankful for the gift of infinite connection through energy transfer. I am thankful for having the opportunity to travel the world personally, and indirectly through the world around me. To experience my social gatherings as an adventure, a place different from my comfort zone and an opportunity to relax and let my guard down.

 Open your eyes, your mind, and your heart, and speak your truth as you interact and you give yourself a free ticket to 90 days around YOUR universe. You will see, feel, and connect with people and your environment in ways you never thought were possible. Such connections might create countless opportunities to define and shape your life in all the ways you dream. 

We have crossed over from the fossil age to a civilization of energy. With this enormous dose of human interaction and connection, it is fair in that sense to agree that your world is in your hands, and providing priceless encounters and opportunities to grow. So wake up tomorrow, start all over, take another journey around your world, before your twenty four hours run out. 

Rest well Brother Chadwick! Wakanda Forever! 

Love & Connection

Every relationship is between two creatures even with yourself (body and spirit). Taking accountability for how and what you contribute, is an act that always has the white flag waving. It tells your intentions, with or without words, and determines the depth and nature of your relationships. 

Every relationship is as unique as every part of the body. But in order to exist, be alive, it needs to connect to the rest of the body. The individual abilities, and collective connectivity of our anatomy is what creates the capacity to form that unique human being. Even to the cellular level, there is power in numbers, possibly why even unintentionally, we crave environments that allow us to connect. 

The way you love others, is the way others love you. And the way others love you is the way you love others. 

Some connections build us, some break us. But even at that level, there is still a teaching moment. Connection is why we exist. It is how we are born to understand the world, OUR world. We are meant to connect, It is what builds us and our relationships, in the process of our growth journey. Just like our purposeful imperfectly perfect parts of the body build our physical form, our connections build and form us and our relationships. 

Every connection and relationship affords us experiences. Focus on the meaning in the lessons rather than the reason, even if it is unpleasant, even if you don’t find yourself the better human. In doing so, we maintain a growth mindset, a positive perception reality, and a contagious growth aura. Imagine such an aura from all your multitude of interconnectedness, that, can truly change your world. 

Make connections, build relationships as vast as your body, connect and experience as many souls in this world as possible. It is only a tiny-fraction of the experiences our universe has to offer. Use your connections to understand and love yourself, by doing that, you will have the capacity to love and understand your relationships. 

Choose love, choose a positive mindset, it will not only grow you, it will grow who you connect with. They receive the energy we teach indirectly, and grace with directly. That, is truly a gift to all of us. We are created to evolve, and Everything WITHIN us and around us, is meant to grow us. Keep Healing, Loving & Growing.